You Can’t Be Changed -aka I married a dud.

March 20, 2018  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

In this stage both partners are disillusioned and unhappy--quietly, sullenly, noisily, stupidly and resentfully. The darker aspects of human beings multiply in the silence. Frustration is rampant and nobody takes deep enough responsibility for themselves. Admitting that the status quo needs changing  takes great courage and character. Both of which ...

Blue prints don’t match up

March 05, 2018  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

Once the infatuation wears off, romantic partners living together become subject to their inner, unconscious blue print inherited from family of origin. Many tasks and rituals need to be established. Couples who have been crazy for each other are surprised and often disheartened by this typical struggle. Women often lead ...

Stage 2 The honeymoon is fading

February 18, 2018  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

You know your relationship is unfolding as it should when you start to feel disappointed in your partner. When the differences in your sexual desire, needs for attention and affection and many other aspects of living together show up, you are into the next power struggle stage. Everybody gets here. ...

6 Stages of Marriage – Tips for Surviving and Thriving

February 06, 2018  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

I am writing this 6 part blog to expand upon my previous blog 6 Stages of Mariage - Pearls Before Swine Cartoon, using some ideas from Emily Nagoski's book, Come as you Are. Click here for Emily's book at Amazon. I will be updating each stage over ...

6 Stages of Marriage – Pearls Before Swine Cartoon

February 06, 2018  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

  There's a funny cartoon in the Times Colonist this Sunday (January 21) in the Pearls Before Swine strip, called "the Six Stages of Relationships." Stage 1: Couple in wedding duds say to each other, " You're the BEST thing that ever happened to ...

Intact Marriage reduces the risk of Dementia

December 12, 2017  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

Intact Marriage reduces the risk of Dementia According to a New Meta-Analysis A new meta analysis of 15 studies involving 800,000-plus subjects—mostly Swedes and Americans—shows lifelong single people have a 41% higher risk of dementia than similarly-aged people who remain married. Those single through divorce or widowhood fall between, ...

What Do You Do When Your Partner Cheats

November 28, 2017  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

The most explosive, chaotic and painful part of an affair-–and the hardest part of recovering from it—can be the disclosure itself. How a spouse finds out about the betrayal, the identity of the other party or parties involved and when and for how long the acts took place are some ...

Why do Affairs Hurt so Much

November 13, 2017  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

Modern infidelity is not just painful. It is often traumatic - whether we are totally surprised or have been suspicious for years. In the digital age, discovery comes with a graphic inventory of sexy photos, erotic emails, and deep desires expressed in black and white - complete with dates and ...

What is Sexuality for a 68 year old woman ?

June 11, 2017  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

Two days ago I danced in the Alma de Espana student fiesta. For the first time I danced my favourite flamenco style called bata de cola ( skirt with a little tail ) in a fabulous skirt I had custom made in Sevilles. I received a lot of ...

Staying Married FOREVER

February 27, 2017  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

"Happily ever after" What does that mean for today's modern marriages ? Staying the course, avoiding divorce, learning to be married well to the one you chose turns out to be good for us.Human beings thrive with the familiarity and the adventure ...

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