Physical arousal is different than subjective arousal
Getting your mind and your body in synch sexually is more complex than you might think, especially for women. Just because a male is erect or a woman is wet does not mean either is ready for intercourse. The genitals may be way ahead of a person’s felt desire for more. Feeling excited, desirous and pleasure during sex is a different process than the penis becoming engorged with blood or the vagina lubricating. How you feel about yourself, your partner and what you are doing or not doing with each other matters a lot when it comes to subjective arousal. Allowing your head to leave behind the regular life and become focused on the here and now of sex can take a bit of patience. Being mentally, emotionally and physically connected is worth the extra effort. Be brilliant with each other.
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