Non Panic Ways to Manage Coronavirus Anxiety

Mental and emotional help at this time is crucial so that existing relational issues do not worsen and new fear-based issues do not develop. The unexpected and unparalleled threat posed by this virus makes life more difficult for all of us. Our brains do not have  direct experience with it. ...

Stop Fighting the Useless Fights (Part 1 of 2)

Every useless argument follows a similar pattern. Some couples perfect it for decades... Same old, same old. Step one in a useless relationship argument goes like this... somebody has an experience that is hurtful, frightening, upsetting, wounding etc... and believes it was done on purpose. The partner is rude, crude and ...

Long Term Committed Relationships- the Challenges and the Rewards

We are all living longer and healthier in the 21st century than ever before. We expect modern medicine to replace our hips, our knees, fix that heart valve, cure cancer etc... When all else fails, and even when it doesn't, we turn to naturopathy, acupuncture, massage, Feldenkrais and other alternative ...

Orgasmic Meditation – Slow SeX – Nicole Daedone

The Making of a SEX therapist

As I was walking to work today, I was remembering an early experience of sensual rejection between my parents. I was 13 and my mother was standing at the stove stirring. She was tired, but dutifully making food for the family. My dad burst in the door just ...

Vacation sex

Vacations are a great time to add rejuvenating ideas and experiences to your sex life. In the same way you make plans for what you want to see and do, think about sexual stuff you might want. Most of us have sexual interests that we have not confided to our ...

Creating a Sacred Space

The early days of passion melt into everyday routine and the uniqueness of our partner becomes ordinary. Keeping sex alive after the early days requires intention, focus and receptivity to your own erotic charge. Each individual needs to be in touch with their carnal, embodied self. If you don't like ...

Smart Lovers, Quickies: What the heck do you want from sex?

Every week I talk with clients - men and women who are not very interested in having sex with their current partner; 12 years of marriage, 2 kids, a mortgage, a dream job and everyone's busted. Stress and busyness keeps our brains and bodies revved up in a state of ...

A Funny Thing Happened in Dance Class

Rebecca is a young vibrant woman  who arrived in my Flamenco class in February of this year. She danced across the room from me so I didn't notice her for a while. Then one Saturday afternoon after we worked the letra ( the verse ) part of dance vigorously and ...

Simmering – Keeping your Erotic Charge

Like a pot on the back burner, your erotic excitement can be kept simmering - below the boiling point for sex but still fun and inviting. I remember couples from my adolescence who would search out each other at every break. He'd walk with his hand in her back pocket ...