Stop Fighting the Useless Fights (Part 1 of 2)
Every useless argument follows a similar pattern. Some couples perfect it for decades... Same old, same old. Step one in a useless relationship argument goes like this... somebody has an experience that is hurtful, frightening, upsetting, wounding etc... and believes it was done on purpose. The partner is rude, crude and ...
Long Term Committed Relationships- the Challenges and the Rewards
We are all living longer and healthier in the 21st century than ever before. We expect modern medicine to replace our hips, our knees, fix that heart valve, cure cancer etc... When all else fails, and even when it doesn't, we turn to naturopathy, acupuncture, massage, Feldenkrais and other alternative ...
The Making of a SEX therapist
As I was walking to work today, I was remembering an early experience of sensual rejection between my parents. I was 13 and my mother was standing at the stove stirring. She was tired, but dutifully making food for the family. My dad burst in the door just ...
Vacation sex
Vacations are a great time to add rejuvenating ideas and experiences to your sex life. In the same way you make plans for what you want to see and do, think about sexual stuff you might want. Most of us have sexual interests that we have not confided to our ...
Creating a Sacred Space
The early days of passion melt into everyday routine and the uniqueness of our partner becomes ordinary. Keeping sex alive after the early days requires intention, focus and receptivity to your own erotic charge. Each individual needs to be in touch with their carnal, embodied self. If you don't like ...
Smart Lovers, Quickies: What the heck do you want from sex?
Every week I talk with clients - men and women who are not very interested in having sex with their current partner; 12 years of marriage, 2 kids, a mortgage, a dream job and everyone's busted. Stress and busyness keeps our brains and bodies revved up in a state of ...
A Funny Thing Happened in Dance Class
Rebecca is a young vibrant woman who arrived in my Flamenco class in February of this year. She danced across the room from me so I didn't notice her for a while. Then one Saturday afternoon after we worked the letra ( the verse ) part of dance vigorously and ...
Simmering – Keeping your Erotic Charge
Like a pot on the back burner, your erotic excitement can be kept simmering - below the boiling point for sex but still fun and inviting. I remember couples from my adolescence who would search out each other at every break. He'd walk with his hand in her back pocket ...
From lust to love – The evolution of a passionate kinship
Most everybody worries about their sexuality. " Am I buxom enough, am I fat?" "My stomach sticks out." " I don't think about sex hardly ever." " I think about it ALL the time. " "I long to ........" fill in the blank. Am I normal? Am I attractive? Lovable? Sexy??? The good news ...
Upcoming Workshops
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Unlock Your Erotic Genius – 3 Mistakes Smart Women Make that Keep them Dead to Sexual Bliss and Their Relationships at Risk
Modern day living exacts a toll on women's sexuality. Enjoyment, anticipation, and orgasm eludes many of us. Inhibited sexual desire affects 40% of women under the age of 45 years ... -
A Free Talk to Unlock Your Libido!!!
THREE MISTAKES SMART WOMEN MAKE THAT KEEP THEM DEAD TO SEX AND THREATENS THEIR RELATIONSHIPS Unlike men, women do ... -
For Valentine’s Day – A Relationship that Lasts
RELATIONSHIP THAT LASTS For Valentine's Day give your relationship the gift of reconnection. 5 Common Mistakes Even Smart Couples Make That Keep ...
