Long Term Committed Relationships- the Challenges and the Rewards

June 18, 2019  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

We are all living longer and healthier in the 21st century than ever before. We expect modern medicine to replace our hips, our knees, fix that heart valve, cure cancer etc… When all else fails, and even when it doesn’t, we turn to naturopathy, acupuncture, massage, Feldenkrais and other alternative modalities.

Our understanding about erotic coupling over the long haul must evolve too. Being intentional about how, when, where and why you initiate sexual contact is part of keeping the charge SEXY!!!! Erotic couples have rituals, not routine that signal availability. Both partners can and do initiate the action with the understanding that “No, not now, not that way” is an acceptable answer. In order to say “YES”, no must be allowed.

Being able to be present – alert and relaxed in close proximity to a beloved makes a great lover. You can always tell which couple will be going home to open their arms to each other as opposed to their phones.

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