Vacation sex
Vacations are a great time to add rejuvenating ideas and experiences to your sex life. In the same way you make plans for what you want to see and do, think about sexual stuff you might want. Most of us have sexual interests that we have not confided to our ...
Creating a Sacred Space
The early days of passion melt into everyday routine and the uniqueness of our partner becomes ordinary. Keeping sex alive after the early days requires intention, focus and receptivity to your own erotic charge. Each individual needs to be in touch with their carnal, embodied self. If you don't like ...
Smart Lovers, Quickies: What the heck do you want from sex?
Every week I talk with clients - men and women who are not very interested in having sex with their current partner; 12 years of marriage, 2 kids, a mortgage, a dream job and everyone's busted. Stress and busyness keeps our brains and bodies revved up in a state of ...
A Funny Thing Happened in Dance Class
Rebecca is a young vibrant woman who arrived in my Flamenco class in February of this year. She danced across the room from me so I didn't notice her for a while. Then one Saturday afternoon after we worked the letra ( the verse ) part of dance vigorously and ...
Simmering – Keeping your Erotic Charge
Like a pot on the back burner, your erotic excitement can be kept simmering - below the boiling point for sex but still fun and inviting. I remember couples from my adolescence who would search out each other at every break. He'd walk with his hand in her back pocket ...
From lust to love – The evolution of a passionate kinship
Most everybody worries about their sexuality. " Am I buxom enough, am I fat?" "My stomach sticks out." " I don't think about sex hardly ever." " I think about it ALL the time. " "I long to ........" fill in the blank. Am I normal? Am I attractive? Lovable? Sexy??? The good news ...
” Is Something Wrong with ME ? ” “YOU ? “
The power struggle stage in a long term relationship is tough enough, add sexual discord and it all feels worse. One of the biggest problems in couple relationship is differing sexual desires. He often has spontaneous sexual desire, she has responsive sexual desire. Both are normal, but different. Spontaneous desire is ...
You Can’t Be Changed -aka I married a dud.
In this stage both partners are disillusioned and unhappy--quietly, sullenly, noisily, stupidly and resentfully. The darker aspects of human beings multiply in the silence. Frustration is rampant and nobody takes deep enough responsibility for themselves. Admitting that the status quo needs changing takes great courage and character. Both of which ...
Blue prints don’t match up
Once the infatuation wears off, romantic partners living together become subject to their inner, unconscious blue print inherited from family of origin. Many tasks and rituals need to be established. Couples who have been crazy for each other are surprised and often disheartened by this typical struggle. Women often lead ...
Stage 2 The honeymoon is fading
You know your relationship is unfolding as it should when you start to feel disappointed in your partner. When the differences in your sexual desire, needs for attention and affection and many other aspects of living together show up, you are into the next power struggle stage. Everybody gets here. ...
Upcoming Workshops
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Unlock Your Erotic Genius – 3 Mistakes Smart Women Make that Keep them Dead to Sexual Bliss and Their Relationships at Risk
Modern day living exacts a toll on women's sexuality. Enjoyment, anticipation, and orgasm eludes many of us. Inhibited sexual desire affects 40% of women under the age of 45 years ... -
A Free Talk to Unlock Your Libido!!!
THREE MISTAKES SMART WOMEN MAKE THAT KEEP THEM DEAD TO SEX AND THREATENS THEIR RELATIONSHIPS Unlike men, women do ... -
For Valentine’s Day – A Relationship that Lasts
RELATIONSHIP THAT LASTS For Valentine's Day give your relationship the gift of reconnection. 5 Common Mistakes Even Smart Couples Make That Keep ...
