Simmering – Keeping your Erotic Charge

June 19, 2018  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

Like a pot on the back burner, your erotic excitement can be kept simmering - below the boiling point for sex but still fun and inviting. I remember couples from my adolescence who would search out each other at every break. He'd walk with his hand in her back pocket ...

From lust to love – The evolution of a passionate kinship

April 10, 2018  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

Most everybody worries about their sexuality. " Am I buxom enough, am I fat?" "My stomach sticks out." " I don't think about sex hardly ever." " I think about it ALL the time. " "I long to ........" fill in the blank. Am I normal? Am I attractive? Lovable? Sexy??? The good news ...

” Is Something Wrong with ME ? ” “YOU ? “

March 27, 2018  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

The power struggle stage in a long term relationship is tough enough, add sexual discord and it all feels worse. One of the biggest problems in couple relationship is differing sexual desires. He often has spontaneous sexual desire, she has responsive sexual desire. Both are normal, but different. Spontaneous desire is ...

You Can’t Be Changed -aka I married a dud.

March 20, 2018  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

In this stage both partners are disillusioned and unhappy--quietly, sullenly, noisily, stupidly and resentfully. The darker aspects of human beings multiply in the silence. Frustration is rampant and nobody takes deep enough responsibility for themselves. Admitting that the status quo needs changing  takes great courage and character. Both of which ...

Blue prints don’t match up

March 05, 2018  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

Once the infatuation wears off, romantic partners living together become subject to their inner, unconscious blue print inherited from family of origin. Many tasks and rituals need to be established. Couples who have been crazy for each other are surprised and often disheartened by this typical struggle. Women often lead ...

Stage 2 The honeymoon is fading

February 18, 2018  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

You know your relationship is unfolding as it should when you start to feel disappointed in your partner. When the differences in your sexual desire, needs for attention and affection and many other aspects of living together show up, you are into the next power struggle stage. Everybody gets here. ...

6 Stages of Marriage – Tips for Surviving and Thriving

February 06, 2018  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

I am writing this 6 part blog to expand upon my previous blog 6 Stages of Mariage - Pearls Before Swine Cartoon, using some ideas from Emily Nagoski's book, Come as you Are. Click here for Emily's book at Amazon. I will be updating each stage over ...

6 Stages of Marriage – Pearls Before Swine Cartoon

February 06, 2018  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

  There's a funny cartoon in the Times Colonist this Sunday (January 21) in the Pearls Before Swine strip, called "the Six Stages of Relationships." Stage 1: Couple in wedding duds say to each other, " You're the BEST thing that ever happened to ...

Intact Marriage reduces the risk of Dementia

December 12, 2017  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

Intact Marriage reduces the risk of Dementia According to a New Meta-Analysis A new meta analysis of 15 studies involving 800,000-plus subjects—mostly Swedes and Americans—shows lifelong single people have a 41% higher risk of dementia than similarly-aged people who remain married. Those single through divorce or widowhood fall between, ...

The State of Affairs – Rethinking Infidelity

November 29, 2017  |   Blog,Client Testimonials   |     |   0 Comment

If you would like to follow up with more information about affairs please read Esther Perel's new book. Some of her ideas are included in my recent blogs.

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