Blue prints don’t match up

March 05, 2018  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

Once the infatuation wears off, romantic partners living together become subject to their inner, unconscious blue print inherited from family of origin. Many tasks and rituals need to be established. Couples who have been crazy for each other are surprised and often disheartened by this typical struggle. Women often lead ...

Stage 2 The honeymoon is fading

February 18, 2018  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

You know your relationship is unfolding as it should when you start to feel disappointed in your partner. When the differences in your sexual desire, needs for attention and affection and many other aspects of living together show up, you are into the next power struggle stage. Everybody gets here. ...

6 Stages of Marriage – Tips for Surviving and Thriving

February 06, 2018  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

I am writing this 6 part blog to expand upon my previous blog 6 Stages of Mariage - Pearls Before Swine Cartoon, using some ideas from Emily Nagoski's book, Come as you Are. Click here for Emily's book at Amazon. I will be updating each stage over ...

6 Stages of Marriage – Pearls Before Swine Cartoon

February 06, 2018  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

  There's a funny cartoon in the Times Colonist this Sunday (January 21) in the Pearls Before Swine strip, called "the Six Stages of Relationships." Stage 1: Couple in wedding duds say to each other, " You're the BEST thing that ever happened to ...

Intact Marriage reduces the risk of Dementia

December 12, 2017  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

Intact Marriage reduces the risk of Dementia According to a New Meta-Analysis A new meta analysis of 15 studies involving 800,000-plus subjects—mostly Swedes and Americans—shows lifelong single people have a 41% higher risk of dementia than similarly-aged people who remain married. Those single through divorce or widowhood fall between, ...

The State of Affairs – Rethinking Infidelity

November 29, 2017  |   Blog,Client Testimonials   |     |   0 Comment

If you would like to follow up with more information about affairs please read Esther Perel's new book. Some of her ideas are included in my recent blogs.

What Do You Do When Your Partner Cheats

November 28, 2017  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

The most explosive, chaotic and painful part of an affair-–and the hardest part of recovering from it—can be the disclosure itself. How a spouse finds out about the betrayal, the identity of the other party or parties involved and when and for how long the acts took place are some ...

Why do Affairs Hurt so Much

November 13, 2017  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

Modern infidelity is not just painful. It is often traumatic - whether we are totally surprised or have been suspicious for years. In the digital age, discovery comes with a graphic inventory of sexy photos, erotic emails, and deep desires expressed in black and white - complete with dates and ...

What is Sexuality for a 68 year old woman ?

June 11, 2017  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

Two days ago I danced in the Alma de Espana student fiesta. For the first time I danced my favourite flamenco style called bata de cola ( skirt with a little tail ) in a fabulous skirt I had custom made in Sevilles. I received a lot of ...

Staying Married FOREVER

February 27, 2017  |   Blog   |     |   0 Comment

"Happily ever after" What does that mean for today's modern marriages ? Staying the course, avoiding divorce, learning to be married well to the one you chose turns out to be good for us.Human beings thrive with the familiarity and the adventure ...

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