Vacation Sex

Just as we plan for a holiday to refresh us and promote connection with our loved ones and other parts of the planet, we can think about and plan for sexual rejuvenation in our relationships. Most married or committed folks get caught up in same old, same old sexual style. ...

Physical arousal is different than subjective arousal

Getting your mind and your body in synch sexually is more complex than you might think, especially for women. Just because a male is erect or a woman is wet does not mean either is ready for intercourse. The genitals may be way ahead of a person's felt desire for ...

Three Common Mistakes Even Smart Women Make that Keep them Disconnected and Frustrated with their Guys

  This three part workshop will focus on the skills and beliefs that are part of  Being Married or Committed Well for the Long Haul. There are four systems of love and romance. Each informed and guided by different hormones. Lust ...

Three common mistakes even smart women make in their relationships that keep them frustrated and disconnected. Stay tuned for an up date soon.

What do Men Want – Three Ideas that confound them

What DO Men Want??? Why would Anthony Weiner risk his marriage, his position as a congress man to send photos of his genitalia to an unknown woman or two?   His reputation and his marriage has been ripped apart in the American press. He's resigned rather than speak up about why he was ...

The New Monogamy

The New Monogamy Today's marriages carry a heavy burden of responsibility. No longer required for legal,procreative, religious reasons, it now must  provide top notch" till we both shall love" emotional and physical intimacy, healing all our childhood wounds and disappointments, companionship, co parenting, domesticity, socializing, career development and physical fitness. ...

Develop a Better relationship with Yourself

Requiring your partner's constant validation and support will stall your personal growth AND your marriage. Find out who you really are, what YOU stand for and risk offering that sexually, once you figure it out.

What Do Men Want???

Upcoming Event: WHAT DO MEN WANT IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS? AFFAIR PROOF YOUR MARRIAGE   This is a special event  that I will be facilitating on June 20 and 27 for Father's Day. In light of the recent disclosure of Arnold Schwarzenneger's affair and Maria Shriver's pain it behooves us all to consider more deeply ...

SEX TIP OF THE WEEK : Take personal responsibility

Take personal responsibility for your sexual activity. Don't rely on a partner to turn you on or even provide an orgasm. Self seduction challenges each person to show up for a sexual encounter from their best self. Think sexy thoughts about your  partner, let yourself FEEL and TOUCH the other ...

Becoming Married Well After Divorce

The break-up rates for marriages after divorce are higher than first time married. Even though hopes are high and love can be sweeter second time around, the emotional demands are higher, the living and dying arrangements more complicated and the bond is more fragile. Treating your second, third or fourth ...